"You don't always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens." ~ Mandy Hale
My 91-year old mother-in-law is a true staunch New Englander.............through and through. For the many years I've know her, she swore she'd never live in with her children. She believed two women under the same roof and in the same kitchen could cause a rumble. Everyone needed their space. Another statement Cliff and I had heard was that she would never ever leave Clinton. About three weeks ago Cliff's mother had her second stroke in less than a year, this one being massive leaving her right side paralyzed and a loss of speech. After administering the stroke drug, she began to recover speech and movement. With daily rehab she is almost back to her old self but can never return to her own living quarters in her elderly complex. Cliff's sister-in-law has been there for Dot for decades and has been her caretaker for many years. Cliff and Diane began researching nursing care facilities in the Clinton area so she could transition smoothly when released from rehab. It's been very emotional and hard on everyone. Then surprisingly in one of the phone conversations with family, we were told that Dot wanted to come to North Carolina to be close to her son. All plans changed and a new strategy came into place. She would need to establish residency and get three forms of proof before the nursing home would even consider her. Her release from rehab is closing in. In order to acquire the three forms of proof, she would have to be here and do it in person. It's been a roller coaster ride for Cliff and Diane. Of course, Cliff is elated to know he'll be able to visit his mother daily, take her out to eat, and bring here here for the holidays. The plan is in progress. There might be more bumps in the road so we're all taking a breath and facing one day at a time.
My 91-year old mother-in-law is a true staunch New Englander.............through and through. For the many years I've know her, she swore she'd never live in with her children. She believed two women under the same roof and in the same kitchen could cause a rumble. Everyone needed their space. Another statement Cliff and I had heard was that she would never ever leave Clinton. About three weeks ago Cliff's mother had her second stroke in less than a year, this one being massive leaving her right side paralyzed and a loss of speech. After administering the stroke drug, she began to recover speech and movement. With daily rehab she is almost back to her old self but can never return to her own living quarters in her elderly complex. Cliff's sister-in-law has been there for Dot for decades and has been her caretaker for many years. Cliff and Diane began researching nursing care facilities in the Clinton area so she could transition smoothly when released from rehab. It's been very emotional and hard on everyone. Then surprisingly in one of the phone conversations with family, we were told that Dot wanted to come to North Carolina to be close to her son. All plans changed and a new strategy came into place. She would need to establish residency and get three forms of proof before the nursing home would even consider her. Her release from rehab is closing in. In order to acquire the three forms of proof, she would have to be here and do it in person. It's been a roller coaster ride for Cliff and Diane. Of course, Cliff is elated to know he'll be able to visit his mother daily, take her out to eat, and bring here here for the holidays. The plan is in progress. There might be more bumps in the road so we're all taking a breath and facing one day at a time.
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